Safer Sex for Men
Safer sex can be fun, with a little humor and imagination, talking about it can be, too.
He Says: You can't feel anything though a condom
You reply: It sure feels better than sleeping alone.
He Say: I usually have safer sex, but let's skip it just this once.
You reply: Practice makes perfect. No glove, no love.
He says: Trust me. I'm safe.
You reply: Good. Let's keep it that way. I want to be safe because I care about you.
Is oral sex safe?
Is oral sex safe? That's a question with no easy answer.
Oral sex isn't the riskiest activity. But it's not 100% safe either. It's up to you to decide what your limits are and what's safe enough for you.
Using a condom for oral sex is the safest. A little flavored lubricant or honey, or any food without oils, can spice things up.
Oral sex is safer without ejaculation. But precum contains HIV, too.
Be aware of the state of your mouth. Bleeding gums or cuts can increase the risk of infection. Don't brush your teeth prior to oral sex, or if you do be gentle as to not scratch your gums with the brush.
In the absence of blood and open sores, rimming, oral anal contact is not very risky for HIV. But you can get hepatitis, gonorrhea or other sexually transmitted diseases.
Condoms are reliable, if treated right.
Condoms are reliable, if treated right. But be sure to watch out for:
Use only water-based lubricants like K-Y. Do not use lubes like Vaseline and Crisco. They contain oils, and oils weaken condoms.
Watch out for fingernails when opening the condom package and unrolling the condom. Fingernails or teeth can weaken the condom.
Keep condoms cool and dry, in a book, bag or dresser drawer. Condoms don't last long in wallets or glove compartments.
Use latex rubber condoms. Only latex condoms have been shown to stop HIV. Natural skin condoms are not good protection from HIV.
You can't tell by looking whether your partner has HIV and Love is no guarantee.
Whether you are gay, bisexual, straight or unsure, young or old, single or in a relationship, safer sex is the best protection for both of you.
How to have safer sex is an important and hard decision. If you and you partner are thinking about sex without condoms, answer the following questions together.
Have we both been tested for HIV at least 6 months after any risky activity?
Have we talked about sex outside the relationship?
Do we trust each other enough to talk about whether we have had unsafe sex with someone else?
If any of your answers are "no", condoms are good protection.
Drugs and Alcohol.
Getting drunk or high before sex increases the chance you'll do something risky. Protect yourself by staying in control of your choices. If you think you have a drug or alcohol problem, counseling can help.
Sharing needles can transmit HIV. Needles pass infected blood from one person to another. Protect yourself.
Don't share needles for speed, steroids or other drugs, or for piercing or tattooing.
If you do use needles, clean them with bleach. Fill the syringe with bleach and squirt it out. Fill the syringe with water and squirt it out. Do this three times.
What is risky?
Some activities are definitely high risk for HIV infection. Anal, oral or vaginal sex without a condom is very risky for both partners, top and bottom.
What is Safe? There is a lot more to safer sex than just condoms. Many sexual practices are totally safe.
Kissing: Salvia has never been shown to transmit HIV. So kissing is safe, whether it's a peck on the cheek or "high impact aerobic French kissing"
Massage and Hugging: Massage is not just foreplay. Touching can be warm and affectionate or erotic and exciting.
Talking: You can talk about safer sex as a way to suggest your choices or fantasies. Or watch porn together and talk about what turns you on.
Masturbation: Masturbating yourself and your partner is safe if no cuts or sores on your skin come in contact with your partner's semen. Try different lubricants for a different feeling.
Licking: Oral sex doesn't have to be limited to genitals. You can lick nipples, toes, earlobes and many other areas.
Fantasies: Dress up. Use feathers, or food, or tell stories. Use dildos or other toys. Make sure you use a condom on them or wash them with soapy water.
How to use a condom.
How to use a Condom: Become a condom expert. Practice with a few different brands, colors, and flavors. Learn to put them on in the dark. Then you'll be ready for safer sex!
Place the condom against the head of the erect penis, leaving some space at the tip for cum. Put a dab of water-based lubricant inside the tip of the condom.
Hold on to the tip of the condom and unroll it completely to the base of the penis. If the penis is uncut, pull back the foreskin before putting on the condom.
Use plenty of water-based lube, like KY, Wet or ForPlay® during penetration. Don't use Crisco®, baby oil, hand lotion or Vaseline® - they can make the condom break.
Immediately after coming, ejaculation, hold the base of the condom and pull out. Don't ever reuse a condom!
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